Sex is not about performance or proving something to yourself or your partner. It is about both people valuing intimacy, pleasuring, and eroticism, while maintaining positive, realistic expectations of the role and meaning of couple sexuality. This title introduces a fresh approach to developing sexual comfort and confidence.

A renowned marital and sex therapist and his wife urge couples to ignore the distorted image of sex they see in today's media and discover their own unique sexual style. The McCarthys provide information, guidelines, exercises, and case studies that will help readers find their own sexual voice and develop a mutually satisfying sexual style.

"This is no "cookie cutter" approach to relationships; McCarthy and McCarthy unearth unique qualities of each couple and show them how to blend intimacy and eroticism in a realistic and fulfilling style. Every couple can grow-and keep growing-with this book's guidance." - Michael Metz,co-author of Men's Sexual Health "Once again the McCarthys have created a classic, easy to read, and relevant guide to a great sex life that is tailored to your personal style and taste. Great insights, compelling stories and fun exercises make this a must read book." - Dr Sue Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (www.holdmetight.net) "With wisdom and clarity, the authors provide a wealth of solid information for couples who want to overcome personal challenges, bridge their erotic differences, and create a deeply rewarding and enduring sexual life together." - Wendy Maltz, author of The Sexual Healing Journey and Passionate Hearts "The very concept of a "couple sexual style" is radically transformative and inspirational. It creates hope and confidence as couples realize that it's in their power to create and maintain, decorate and refurbish their own style-together." - Diane Sollee,Founder and Director of smartmarriages.com "I appreciate that the authors note taht , while this is a self-help book, it is not a do-it-yourself help book. The book provides value to the sexuality field, particularly to therapy and counseling. It is a resource that is accessible to the average person by not bring over-priced or too daunting in size to read. It also normalizes areas of sexuality that are often viewed to be on the fringes by our society." - Shanna L. S. Klunk, LSW, MSW, licensed psychotherapist, in Contemporary Sexuality, june 2010. Vol 44. No. 6